Perhaps there was or will be that time when you sit back and say with a deep exhale, “I screwed up”…. but hey! you owned it. Now, some time has passed and maybe you are struggling to come to terms with what exactly happened. What went wrong where and moving forward… now what?
First things first. We are human beings and we are going to make mistakes. That’s called life: working, operating, functioning, perceiving, endeavoring, consequences and results. Listen, life is a comprehensive “road trip” built upon course correction after course correction and modifications along the way. Listen, if we’re not moving forward…. advancing, we are moving backward. That is, we are either creating or disintegrating. Disintegration is not an option.
So, those circumstances are part of our essential growth no matter what stage of life we are in. Literally, we fail our way forward. Failure or life’s shortcomings yield us contrast. In the context of contrast, we make decisions. Those decisions are the axis point and whatever you chose, is crucial.
Whatever the decision, understand that it is mostly based upon your current operating system. That is your beliefs, values, and your past experiences. If it was a wrong decision and dug you deeper, your values are mixed up due to the operating system.
Question to ask yourself: was it something I did knowing right from wrong at the onset? OR was it purely accidental?
This is where you must have a “truth session” with yourself and begin to unravel. This is the starting point. A blameless autopsy of the circumstance before you. If it was done on purpose that is you knew it was wrong at the onset then YUP, your values are mixed up and you need to step back and re-evaluate your core values and beliefs. It’s time for a course correction.
But what happens when life throws us a curveball? Where we are being challenged by a circumstance where we meant well from the onset and conducted ourselves with integrity?
Understand that in every situation, there is a space between the situation (or circumstance) and how you respond to it. And in that space, you make a choice (decision) of how you are going to respond. We either respond or we react.
If you react you have lost control. Respond and you are in control. We have to learn to quit reacting. How? by understanding and studying ourselves.
I study every day. I study my paradigms, how I think and I diligently work on the creative quality of my life. I am in complete control and I live a stunning life.
Because of my daily studies, I am very well educated in this area. I’m not going to let someone or something upset me and if I see I’m starting to get drawn in, I’ll stop it right away because it’s a dumb game and it’s a game that you can’t win.
You can’t put anybody else in charge of yourself. That would be like living in a pool of piranhas and you’re going to get bit. You have to take charge of yourself and live from (respond) emotional neutrality”. What a concept!!
We have the ability to do and think anything. To originate ideas and fulfill those ideas, concepts, and creations. We are dynamos. We just don’t understand it fully.
Start every day with this affirmation: “If circumstance today does not serve me, grow me or make me happy – OUT!” And, when you say “OUT!” wave your arm like are conducting an orchestra. Sweep it away from your body.
Control the controllables. That’s it. Take responsibility and do what is necessary to see it through fused to your values and beliefs.
If the challenge at hand was something you knew better not to do, you know that your values are mixed up due to your operating system. Time for modification.
If it was an accident, misjudgment… get it the hell outside of you. It is something outside of you… it is called a circumstance…. that is, it is tangible. It is not you nor does it define you today, tomorrow, or in the future.
You are a magnificent being, never forget that. Get back up, brush yourself off and fail your way forward. Enjoy the journey!